Why does a person find themselves in similar relationships and conflicts time and again, even when they want something different? Participants of the psychological club will discuss patterned scenarios and try to distinguish their own choices from external influences. Sometimes recurring situations only become noticeable over time. Circumstances and people change, but the conflict develops according to a familiar script, the choice leads again to a similar outcome, and the inner voice unexpectedly speaks in the words of parents or other significant people. In the meeting of the psychological club, participants will try to examine such coincidences and understand what exactly we inherit from family, culture, and past experiences. The conversation will revolve around life scenarios and beliefs that are perceived as rules that must be followed. These may include ideas about work, money, relationships, success, responsibility, or how life should generally look. Some of these beliefs help navigate, but some hinder, because they simply do not fit the specific person. Special attention will be given to family and cultural beliefs: those phrases, norms, and expectations that are absorbed so early that they begin to seem like one’s own. Participants will be able to think about which rules they want to keep, which to change, and which to stop considering mandatory. The host Maria Efimova is the founder of the psychological club #AtUncleYung's and a psychologist at RGBM.