Why do we choose pain instead of closeness? You will explore the hidden mechanisms of sadomasochistic relationships and learn to recognize your own patterns. Some relationships seem to be soaked in pain. One inflicts suffering, the other endures. In this dance of passion and control, millions of couples participate, unaware that they are repeating a script with deep psychological roots. Through the lens of psychoanalysis and using the example of the film "Venus in Fur," participants will discover what lies behind the desire for suffering, what the hidden benefits are for both sides of such unions, and why it is so difficult to break free from destructive ties. You will analyze how parental scripts repeat, how we unconsciously choose "pain as proof of love," and what steps can be taken to change this dynamic.