Why do we choose some people and avoid others? Psychoanalyst Sasha Soulker will talk about the invisible mechanisms of falling in love, projections, and scenarios dictated by our unconscious. The lecture promises to break familiar patterns and help us look at relationships in a completely different way. Do we fall in love with a person - or with the image we have created of them? Why are we so drawn to partners with traits of our parents, even if our childhood memories are not the warmest? And is it true that familiar pain is more reliable than unknown happiness? In the lecture "You Don't Choose Me, Your Unconscious Does," psychoanalyst and couples therapist Sasha Soulker will offer a perspective on love through the lens of unconscious mechanisms that guide our choices - even when we are sure they are conscious. Participants will learn how projection works - why we fall in love with an imagined ideal and then become disappointed with reality. They will discuss the concept of the "familiar object" and how we often unconsciously seek familiar traits in a partner. Special attention will be given to "neurotic scenarios": recurring relationship patterns where suffering becomes the norm, and change is frightening. The lecture is aimed at anyone interested in psychology, working on relationship topics, or wanting to understand their own patterns. This meeting is not only for professionals but also for those seeking answers to personal questions. The DeepMeet podcast, hosted by Sasha, has already resonated with listeners, and now you have the opportunity to talk to the author in person, ask questions, and perhaps leave this meeting with a new perspective on yourself and your relationships. We share on KudaGo where to go in St. Petersburg this weekend for free.