The lecture at the library is dedicated to an experience familiar to many: the fear of being unnecessary and unnoticed. Practicing psychologist Olga Alexandrovna will talk about how to stop measuring your worth by others' reactions and gradually build a warmer relationship with yourself, without adjusting your life to the expectations of those around you. The lecture will address a feeling that can suddenly and painfully overwhelm a person at different ages - the sensation that one is not needed by anyone. Sometimes it arises against the backdrop of a breakup, and sometimes it comes during a period of change when the old social circle disintegrates and new connections have not yet formed. Olga Alexandrovna will suggest viewing this experience not as a sentence, but as a signal that one's own value in life has been allocated too little space. At the beginning of the meeting, familiar scenarios will be examined in which people try to "earn" attention: they adapt to others, fear to refuse, take on more than they can bear. Through examples from practice, it will become clear how the desire to avoid loneliness at all costs makes relationships fragile and deprives one of internal support. The difference between self-esteem and self-worth will be discussed separately: the former relies on comparison and evaluations, while the latter is connected to the sense of the right to one's feelings, desires, and boundaries. The conversation will then shift to how internal prohibitions are formed - beliefs like "it's hard to be with me," "I am a burden," "I have no right to ask for help." It will be shown how they appear in childhood and adolescence, how they are repeated in adult experiences, and why the habit of remaining silent about one's needs leads to a feeling of invisibility. Listeners will be able to track their own beliefs, notice familiar phrases, and understand which of them particularly influence behavior. A separate block will focus on practical steps. The psychologist will discuss where to start working on a more caring attitude towards oneself: how to notice where one undervalues their successes, what the first small step towards personal boundaries might be, and how to learn to say "no."